Men’s Mental Health Month Is here, But All You Did Was Hate Pride
We need to talk to men.
Men have a tough time breaking out of this self-built shell, which is also extraordinarily fragile.
Let’s be honest, you didn’t care when your best friend was depressed. You just care now because there’s glitter in your feed.
Bro, Is This Your First Time Remembering June Exists?
June rolls around, and suddenly everyone’s a men’s mental health advocate. Weird, because all year you called your sad friends “weak” and told your bro to just “chug a beer and move on.” But okay.
And then, like clockwork, the posts start:
“Why does Pride get all the attention?” “Nobody talks about us.” “Men have it so hard”
Yes, you do.
Grief Politics
In this world men become men’s problem.
From birth Boyhood is complicated “cars” that never break “superheroes” that save everyone and never cry, but you see men aren’t superheros that can solve every problem but it so ingrained in our society from the time we are born we are put into categories “blue” and that’s where expectations start and the superhero becomes a tragic protagonist in shakespeare play.
Shakespeare explores this quite vastly in Macbeth, the way he questions his masculinity for greed to remain in power on the throne. Sound familiar? yeah most cis-het men are like that.
And that’s not masculinity.
That’s emotional exile. (Read: Gender to me feels like poetry in a world made for calculations)
Ever read Macbeth?
Macbeth questions his manhood
He’s coerced to equate masculinity
with ambition,
power,
dominance,
and the ability to kill his vulnerability.
He first murders because he’s afraid of being seen as not man enough.
“When you durst do it, then you were a man.”
Do We Want Healing?
The first step for healing is accepting that we as a society have a problem.
Guys who never went to therapy, never told their guy friends “I love you,” never questioned why they feel numb, now using trauma as a protest?
Like, where was this energy when your friend ghosted everyone for 6 months?
Where was it when your younger brother was bullied for being soft?
It’s almost like you don’t want men to heal you, you just want to stay the loudest victim in the room.
And that’s on fragile masculinity.
But healing isn’t a competition.
It’s a revolution.
June Could Heal Us All
A month where straight men actually supported each other without judgement.
A month where people get to spread love to everyone without any judgement.
A month where healing wasn’t conditional.
Men’s Mental Health Month is not supposed to be clapback at Pride.
It’s a call to reconnect with your brothers, with softness with feelings, and advocate against toxic systems.
Stop turning it into a fight.
You matter. Look deeper. You will find love.
We’re all just trying to make sense of ourselves in this noise. I know I am.
Some of us just do it in neon crop tops and glitter eyeliners or even just sit at home and watch Pride.
And guess what, that doesn’t invalidate your masculinity.
Self love
Pride and men’s mental health aren’t in competition, they’re reflections of the same truth:
We’re all aching for space to be ourselves.
Queer folks fight for the right to exist authentically. Men are begging to feel without shame.
At their core, both movements are saying:
"Please, let me be human without punishment."
So June isn’t about choosing one over the other. It’s about realizing that softness, vulnerability, and truth belong to all of us.
Let’s stop making pain a battlefield.
Start making it a bridge.
We are the human race; after all, we are bound to live in solidarity.
So why not?
Not tryna be famous
just tryna feel less alone.
[@inkedinemotions] if u wanna read the mess that made me
